There’s this idea that we are taught at a very young age, and that is when something isn’t working for us, whether it’s school or work or something on the athletic field, let’s say you’re playing football, like when I was playing football, if you weren’t doing well, work harder, push harder, invest more. And we’re just always taught never give up, always put more into things. Now that does work.
I mean, hard work and investment, and putting more into something tends to get you more results in most areas of your life. However, when it comes to relationships, sometimes that’s not the case. And sadly it seems that a lot of us, when we get stuck in a relationship where it is turning casual, and it’s not clear what the boundaries are of the relationship, a lot of us think that the more we put into it, naturally the more we will get out of it. And this video is focused on helping to debunk that idea so you can finally be on a path to finding love.
I’m Adam Lodolce from SexyConfidence.com, where I help you create your love story. And if you enjoy videos just like this, make sure you subscribe on YouTube. Or, if you’re watching this on Instagram, make sure you follow the handle @sexyconfidence because I’m going to have a lot of content coming up this upcoming year.
Now I want to start this video out with just a very blanket statement, so I’m very clear about the position I’m taking. If he doesn’t want a relationship, don’t give him the benefits of being in a relationship. If you finally are in a place in your life where you do want to attract love, or you’re open to the idea of attracting love, then these types of relationships are truly holding you back from what it is you want.
Being stuck in a casual relationship when you are trying to find love is very similar to trying to lose weight and eating cookies every single night of the week. Like in this analogy you can be working out every single morning, you can be eating salads for lunch, but if you’re coming home every single night, watching Netflix and mowing down like a thing of chocolate chip cookies, which by the way I’m super into myself. Still, if you’re doing that every single night it doesn’t matter how much of these other things you’re going to do, this toxicity, that is what’s going to hold you back from actually losing the weight. And I want you to think of these casual relationships in the same sense.
Both men and women find themselves in a situation where they assume that just because there are relationship benefits involved, emotions, sex, time spent together, that it is a relationship. But there’s only one person that can protect your heart, and that is you.
So look, if he doesn’t want a relationship and if you’re cool with casual relationships and you’re not in a place where you can be in a relationship, that’s fine, I don’t judge you. But this community is designed for women who are at that time in their life where they want something more for themselves, where they have that vision for their life, and that includes a partner. And that is where I need you to say to yourself, and commit right now to no more casual relationships.
And if you do want a little bit more help in this area, figuring out how to get out of the casual trap and finally find a committed relationship, I have a course called the casual to committed blueprint. I will leave a link right there below in the description if you’re watching this on YouTube, or my bio if you’re viewing this on Instagram, @sexyconfidence: https://casualtocommitted.com/launch-open/.